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It’s never about forgiving others. It’s only about forgiving yourself.
For not knowing better, for not being able to foresee where it was going, for not having the power to not engage with that which hurt you. For being smaller, unprepared and having less mental and physical power. For allowing yourself to be in the same space with what or who abused you, for trusting it and allowing it to rob you of your life energy. For poisoning you and your future, your perception and decisions along your path.
But, no, you don’t have to forgive them. You can’t, it’s not your job. It’s not your responsibility to repair what they themselves decided, consciously or subconsciously. It’s your job to forgive yourself. And it’s theirs to forgive themselves.
You can try to forgive them, but it will never guarantee their changed behavior, that’s still a job for them to do and you don’t have any power over that. Thinking that if you forgive them, they will stop doing what they do, is an illusion which will cost you in the future and you will end up resenting them, and yourself – again – for it. Then, the act of forgiving them will get harder. And the next time, harder, and so on. It’s a vicious cycle from which you benefit for a second, in that brief time when you expect them to correct their behavior, until they do it again; and it benefits them, because they get to take you by surprise and steal that life energy to feed their inner wounds with.
Abusers and toxic people are wounded people. You can have compassion for them, you can try to show them the way, but you can never heal for them. As long as you act as a temporary holder of the wound, they will never heal.
Forgive yourself. Heal. Let others, including your abusers, do the same. You don’t own their journeys. But you can own yours.
We are focused points of energy. We can learn how to summon the type of energy we wish to let circulate through us.
The only reason we choose to let negative and destructive energy through our system is because we think it will shield us from harm.
It’s a belief based in fear.
But it will only make it worse. The negative spiral becomes stronger, unless we throw our anchor into the light and start climbing back up.
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You have to know there was magic in the moment and space of your making.
And you have to know it never left.
It is there, every breath.
You only changed your perception of it. You only forgot how it feels for a while.
But it’s there, eternal, waiting for you to see it with your heart again.
Bliss. Grace. Power.
You are of it.
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There are details which cannot be spoken with words, cannot be put in laws, and feelings which cannot be filmed with a camera. We were taught to live in a rational way mainly, but we now know the mind is only a servant to the soul, it is not the soul itself. You are never alone as long as you expand your awareness beyond the mind, into the heart. The field of the heart is were your purpose is grounded, and you are never alone there.
Reach out, and remember who you were before the mind made you think you are separated: a vibrational being, built from light, made to experience the joy and wonder of life. Choose to pull yourself out of the vortex of depression, into the peaceful shore of who you really are. Your power is such that you can always return here, because this is the place that you were born from.
You can do more than you think. You can feel better than you do when you’re on the negative spiral. You don’t have to be a victim of the “social anxiety in a social media society” paradox. Your mind and your heart are supposed to go together, because your heart always knows something your mind doesn’t.
Talk to a stranger
If you feel you can’t talk to your friends or your family, talk to a stranger. Whatever is bringing you down in this moment, you don’t have to do it alone. And whatever it is, it only becomes heavier and feels more real, the more it gets hold of you.
But it’s not real and it doesn’t have to be. What makes it seem real is you being the center of it, allowing it to take over you. It’s like gravity, except you feel like there is no ground beneath your feet, no Earth surface to stop you from falling. Without you at the center, it could not remain in place. So put your awareness into knowing it is in your power to shift your attention somewhere else Now. The way you feel now is not your fault. What you really feel is the disconnection between your mind and your heart, and that’s been caused by the old patterns which created the environment in which you life brought you. But it is not how the world really IS, it’s just the way it appears, and it’s just one movie, seen from one camera, and it doesn’t make it the only one.
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…we defined the Universe within the needs of limits, because we thought that we are limited.
…we needed the Universe to be as limited as we thought we were, so we built our future based on principles of separation and limits.
…we made it look how we needed it to look.
We no longer need for it to look a certain way, because we are starting to recognize ourselves as it.
There is a certain kind of power, and freedom at the same time, that comes from not trying to impose your will on life.
From not mistaking physical strength, or any other apparently finite structure’s existence for power.
From living in accordance with the laws of Flow.
From being in alignment with your Path.
From following the natural order of things.
From minding the Measure of things.
From knowing that the mind can’t solve the problems of the soul, on its own.
From understanding that everything, from light, to music, to your cells, is vibration, and that vibration is what brings and keeps things together, or sets them apart.
From understanding that pain arises from what we do not yet know or understand, and that awareness is the key to dissolve that pain.
From knowing you did not come out of nowhere and you are never by yourself.
From knowing that everyone else is another version of you, the same way you are a version of them.
You are the Universe experiencing itself, and so you hold as much power as the whole, as long as you deliberately align with it and vibrate at the frequency which makes new worlds possible, like the one you are in right now.
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Time. Words. Material. The abstract world is always stronger before it starts to die away.
We are structured light. Never finite. Always traveling.
Become aware of your inner map being a reflection of the whole Universe. Ask yourself: “how long can I go without knowing who I am?” We are eternal mirrors of each other, but reflections serve only as reminders that we also poses an inside world, and in it we speak all languages, we keep all dreams, we know all there was and will be. There are no secrets to the soul, unless you try to live substituting the mind to it. The heart knows. Always knows. Always knows.
Allow. Love your fears and they will grow into butterflies of hope. Everything transforms. And every intention, set or withheld, will pave the way of that transformation. That is the point of your ability to influence how your outer world builds around you. The many layers of this world are a reflection of all that we poses inside. Until we collapse onto ourselves and dissolve the fleeting structure that was meant to evolve, we have a choice.
We are forced towards ourselves more and more, with each sunrise, each revolving of this spaceship we’re on. From continents and nations, to the nearest places of need and grief, affirmation and connection, expression and pleasure, to our personal and collective spaces, our families, our children, we expand our consciousness, ultimately forced to asses the resonance of it all within. And we know all that would disappear in its perceived form, if for a while we would stop from breathing.
We started out as drops of water and stars dust, vibrating at the sound of light.
We are growing apart from our fears and illusions. Power is nothing, if not another name for Love.
We are the miracle threshold between the non-existent and memories.
All it takes is one tiny thing that brings you true joy. One thing to bring you a sigh of relief, because it reminds you of the wonder of the world.
Food For Soul:
p.s.: above are small jars of devilishly delicious cherry and lemon jam – just fresh fruit and sugar and a splash of water, if you ever wanna try them.
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Nobody is as hard on you as you are.
That’s where the root of suffering lies.
Stop pushing yourself like that. There are no grades, no mean teachers behind you.
You don’t own all the problems of the world. Others were born on the same day as you were too.
Allow yourself to accept yourself.
Don’t wait for the end of the week to remember your freedom. Don’t wait for holidays to do what you like most. Balance between working time and playing time means they are both equally important. Work prizes should not be associated with pain and struggle. Play prizes bring more joy and your soul knows why. Honor the time you need to adjust to things. You are not a robot, you can’t endlessly push buttons.
You don’t have to worry about everything today, leave some for tomorrow too.
Give yourself the time to understand whatever you need to understand.
If you knew how wonderful you are, by just being you, at least two hundred self-help businesses would go out of business. Imagine that power.
Stop keeping your self in a prison of guilt, blame, shame. Forget all the reasons you ever felt those feelings for. Get a break. Get a drink. Breathe. Breathe long.
Be silent. Watch a water flow. Dream. Become friends with yourself again. Stay in the sun a little longer. Let yourself be carried by a thing: a feeling, an embrace, a wave, a breeze.
Don’t misuse your agenda and notebook. They are here to remind you of things, so that you don’t have to keep that information active in your mind all at once. They were not invented to imprison you in a ceaseless race, on a perpetuum of hundreds of tasks.
Repeat after me: “No”.
Make coffee. Make tea. Put a song on and just lay back for 5 minutes. Don’t look at your phone. Don’t check your emails. Don’t tweet about how great this song is. If the phone rings, let it ring. You can call back after you’re done with your moment. You don’t owe anything to anybody.
Take this moment for yourself. Take it now. Because no one else will for you.
Life is not meant to be dictated by others, by fear, or by pain.
Give yourself permission to choose only the easy things today.
Make memories. Feel happiness. Don’t restrict, expand the moments, and expand yourself with them.
Leave some room for life to grow branches.
Leave some questions unanswered.
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work revolving around
– embracing your feminine power and the modern goddess,
– how having equal rights as men doesn’t mean imitating them,
– having it all doesn’t mean doing it all,
– the feminine divine path to manifesting your dreams.
I couldn’t stop talking about this woman.
I am a dedicated fan and proud I Am Venus Ambassador, I think every woman should have her book(s).
Her work has helped me decode my own inner mission and go through life with a different sense of self I did not know I could have.
one book: “Resurrecting Venus”
My favorite quotes from the book (with Romanian translation), here:
more on: http://www.cynthiaoccelli.com/
work revolving around
– your health and wellbeing as a woman, how to speak the language of your body, – how to “create physical and emotional health and healing”.
– all stages of life as a woman decoded, from childhood, motherhood, menopause to old age.
Any time I need a spiritual pick-me-up, I watch one of these videos or listen to her radio show. She’s a rock, a healer, wise and fun, telling-it-like-it-is type of woman.
one book: ““
more on: http://www.drnorthrup.com/
work revolving around
– finding hormonal balance through diet,
– understanding the monthly cycle and what happens with the body during each phase,
– decoding all the processes in a woman’s body and how you can make the best of each of them.
If you’re a planning freak like me, you’ll love this.
book “The Woman Code”
more at: http://floliving.com/
work revolving around
– the divine feminine as a missing component in world religions stories,
– how we need a balance between the masculine and feminine representations of the Divine.
– how God/Divinity/Source can be found starting inside of our own bodies.
Any belief, or residue of the belief, that being a woman is somehow less than being a man, will forever be dissolved by this woman’s work.
one book: “Reveal”
more on: http://megganwatterson.com/
Helping you sail the waters of the spirit and celestial influences, translating the language of the stars for us, to better understand who we are and what moves us.
facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/TheMoonWoman/
facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/AstrologerCoach.SonjaFrancis/
work revolving around
The narcissistic psychology, narcissistic abuse and narcissistic PTSD.
work revolving around
Boundaries, relationships, self love.
work revolving around
Mind body healing, breath work, energy work, EFT, tapping, self love and how to heal ourselves through the power of being aware of our own bodies and their wisdom.
My go to YT channel for guided meditations:
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These women got to know their power, embraced it completely and then decided to shine it back into the world. Their work is much greater than what could be put into a blog post.
So, here’s my wish for you: may you fall in love with at least one of them, if not with all of them, and take in the priceless gifts they bring to the world.
It is a time for self discovery around the entire planet, and every discovery starts within. Let these women help you.
Because if you don’t follow your heart and true dream, you’ll miss out on life and the world will miss out on you.
I am here for any questions you might have related to all of the above.
Love to you.
Isn’t music the thing that saves our soul, every time?
It always saves mine.
Varianta în română: https://soulpatterns.wordpress.com/2013/07/20/just-air-just-echos/
“If you don’t like where you are, change it; you are not a tree.”
As I was saying in a recent post, the map of our own life is inside us, and we, subconsciously or consciously, draw it ourselves as we go. The answers we seek are within, and the environment and others serve as reminders of that. If we manage to get rid of the negative programming and the ego reflexes, and if we reconnect with the energy source which created us, we can influence the direction of our path. There are very few situations in which this is impossible.
Even when we can’t change things, we can still change our reaction to them.
Unfortunately, we were taught to constantly prepare for the worst, forgetting that the purpose of this journey is to grow and enjoy the ride.
Eldon Taylor gives a very good example on how our beliefs influence our lives, from a study made in China, where many people believe that those born in a certain astrological sign, will die of a certain disease, which was what eventually happened.
What we affirm to ourselves daily, becomes true for us.
I don’t believe that we live and die, just so we can sit and do nothing in the meantime.
The road does make us. But that doesn’t mean we have no power over it whatsoever. We also, at least partially, if not equally, make IT. This manifestation plane would look very different, if we were meant to give up the role of co-creating our life and our path.
There is no such thing as our road, without us in it.
Versiunea în română: https://soulpatterns.wordpress.com/2013/06/14/drumul/
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Until a few years ago, I was my worst critic. I never ran short of negative self judgement. I kinda felt there were other ways to do things, but it seemed like everybody else around me did it, so I thought, well, who am I to do otherwise? Not to be mistaken for a conformist. I did it my way. 🙂 But I was living in the mind.
I’m not gonna go into the how and why I got there, because I would probably need to write a book to tell the whole story. But I can give you a glimpse of what it looks like, and what I think of it, as I am still shaking off the last bits and cutting off the last strings of the burden that it has built around me and my life, while being attached to it. Some may even be feeling a bit of relatableness 🙂 So grab a cup of tea, this will be, at times, a bit… chilly.
I know how cruel the life of those living only in the mind is, because I did it too, for a long time.
It’s a cold place, which you constantly try to warm up with ego things and you never quite manage to.
Every time you think you made it, something, someone bigger, faster, stronger, will dwarf you.
It’s the way of the world, the natural process of growth. And yet, when you are in the mind and live off the land of ego, nothing will soothe the pain, since you only play for the first, spotless place.
Anything which starts with the second place and goes downwards, is for losers.
Sure, this way to live and be has made our race stronger… or did it?
Did we learn to keep our tears inside? Are we more ourselves now?
Are we pleased?
Outcomes and underlayings
Poverty, violence, war, racism, old laws that cause injustice, pollution, intolerance, disease.
The personal dramas, the natural catastrophes,
a picture of an earth that seems to forgive the bad and punish the good.
Yet, these are not the real problems, in the sense that they are not unsurpassable. All these things have solutions. Real ones.
On paper, everybody knows them. Sadly, in practice, there’s something underneath them, which constantly sabotages their fulfillment: the underlying ones. Instead of allowing ourselves to thrive and soar, our efforts seem like stones in a game of backward Tetris, unconsciously dissolving everything that’s on top. Those underlying problems aren’t complicated, and not hard to understand, but we lack the muscle for it; and they are simple in fact: we don’t take care of our bodies and we live in the mind. Sounds too easy, doesn’t it? You would think that we are here for higher purposes, right? Well, what if that higher purpose would start to reveal its true nature only after you solved these first two?
Vessels of life
If we would just take a moment, and stay still, and reflect.
I’m not sure which is worst, ignoring your body or believing you are your mind.
Both however make a recipe for disaster.
We think that we don’t have to listen to our bodies, but to everything else around them; when actually, the Universe is within us too. We know what we need, so that we can function at an optimal level. But we just don’t want to. We can’t. We need to many permissions, it has to first be all over the news. We need a campaign and a montage!
Denying the very space inside of us, and its requirements, is what leads to the primary structure on which we sew our negative emotions, bad feelings and unwanted outcomes.
Nothing would be simpler, and yet more effective, than to turn inside. Yet somehow, most of us spend a lifetime running away from it, in this mad quest for an ever-eluding picture of happiness and what we are taught it should be.
In a fast paced world, nobody seems to have the time for such un-graspable matters.
When did we decide that this formula would be good for ourselves:
don’t eat natural foods
don’t drink water
don’t get fresh air and sun
don’t get enough sleep?
Not listening to our bodies is actually not listening to the divine power that created us, call it whatever you fancy. We tool and harden them, instead of loving them. It seems easier, although it’s a bad long-term management decision. In time, it will prove to be harder.
Why do we do it?
because for so many years, we have been taught how to imitate an ideal that serves the industrial type of productivity, we scheduled our hours and efficiency, trying to imitate machines.
A German might call me a Greek. But this is not about disproving what already is, it’s just to ask: what do we really still need?
We ignore the little signals until they become a huge cry, then we go to the doctor and get quick fixes or permanent ones. Society loves sacrifice stories, but do we still need them to feel worthy?
Back to the mind: when you only live in it, or mostly in it, you make a choice of being its servant, instead of making it your servant. Everything has to be a challenge, in order to reaffirm your choice; a mountain, something to be conquered. Stillness is death.
We have an overly masculine approach on everything, even though femininity is the symbol for creation, creativity and nurturing, thus for positive growth.
Maybe applying a few feminine principles would spare us greatly of the negative outcomes we face.
Maybe the two, the masculine and the feminine, should be sewed in a more balanced manner into most decisions, if not all decisions. How would the world look then?
One paradox of the mind is that, although it doesn’t have all the facts, it behaves as though it has only the negative possible ones. Then, it shuts down or ignores the communication with the heart, and makes perfect excuses for distrusting it all. God forbid we should accept we need attention or to love ourselves, before we first hammer ourselves into avoiding to acknowledge that. It’s an acquired reflex. There’s no need for a teacher or a supervisor, we can punish the self and the others without any help. What’s better than persecution? Self-persecution. We’ve become masters of the blaming game, always on a lookout for possible candidates, that we can offer some home-made anger treats to.
We embrace the ego so tightly and then ask the divine to give us answers for why our lives aren’t better than they are. We like greed, envy, jealousy, to be possessive, to control and manipulate; we think maybe if we keep going like that, we will somehow imitate true power. They’re like artificial sweeteners and hydrogenated fats in your desert, a brief somewhat pleasurable taste, but then they damage all tissues they come in contact with…
Mindfulness? slow food? grinding your own coffee? meditation? Ain’t nobody got time for that!
A shadow of reason
We’ve become so skilled into shooting our own dreams down.
When did we decide the power to change is not ours?
When did we outsource responsibility?
At what point did we accept to be in a constant state of unworthiness?
Was it when philosophers first came to be, when they seemed to be people destined to solve problems which required (more) time to think?
It seemed deep thinking and rabbit holes were for philosophers, creativity was for artists, building houses was for masons, and the matters of the spirit were for priests and monks.
Did that left the rest of the people with in-between jobs (purposes)?
Do we go to fortune tellers and truly expect them to map out our next moves, when in truth, the map is inside us, and we, subconsciously or consciously, draw it ourselves as we go?
Was it in our education over the years, the mentality that brought us to record and execute, but not to understand?
Why do we let our bodies and our lives to something else other than our own hands?
We settled for less. Probably because it seemed easier to appear as victims, than to appear as anything stronger than that.
Responsibility means accountability, nobody wants that. The victim cannot be guilty, right?
We’ve mistaken instincts for feelings, and to be powerful with being destructive or unchangeable.
Why is it so hard for people to fight for what they know is best for them?
Is it because they don’t know they can ask for it?
Are we afraid of being called “lazy”, “a wuss”, “a rebel”? What’s the label you fear most?
Who do you need permission from to be yourself and claim your right to wellbeing?
The demons that live inside and around you need your permission too. They feed primarily on fear. They grow stronger with each dive into anger, and each fake desert you have.
And at what point did the mind became the only seemingly reliable tool?
“Here’s a soul: now go on living like you don’t have one.” Wouldn’t we all be just brains? How creepy would that be?
We should understand that we have been given a sacred space and vessel of communication, and that we are obligated to care for it the best way we can.
We should see that only in this space we share the management position with the power that created us.
We should understand that having a brain does not mean we only have that. The mind is but a servant. Someone said that the mind is the captain that stirs the boat, but not the boat itself.
We are a resonating space, that when let to it, goes in tune with all universal forces. Being there for ourselves is what gives way for that to happen.
We are the ones that shut down the opportunities which lie on the other side of victimhood.
Our bodies are meant to move us and hold our spirits.
Stepping across that line between fear and manifestation of our inner gifts is what drives the human spirit after all. Caring for yourself is caring for the way you care for others. When you are not whole, you can’t give the same way you would as when being that way.
Let the bridges between your heart and your mind reconnect. Let them go together. Then tie back the loose ends of your body’s needs, these are two gifts you can give yourself anytime, that no one else can give you. Make yourself whole again, that is how you first came here anyway.
Versiunea în română: https://soulpatterns.wordpress.com/2013/06/07/doua-lucruri/
Give in into your own reasons, the other ones are just remainders.
Versiunea în română: https://soulpatterns.wordpress.com/2013/03/21/momentul-de-fata/