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It’s never about forgiving others. It’s only about forgiving yourself.
For not knowing better, for not being able to foresee where it was going, for not having the power to not engage with that which hurt you. For being smaller, unprepared and having less mental and physical power. For allowing yourself to be in the same space with what or who abused you, for trusting it and allowing it to rob you of your life energy. For poisoning you and your future, your perception and decisions along your path.
But, no, you don’t have to forgive them. You can’t, it’s not your job. It’s not your responsibility to repair what they themselves decided, consciously or subconsciously. It’s your job to forgive yourself. And it’s theirs to forgive themselves.
You can try to forgive them, but it will never guarantee their changed behavior, that’s still a job for them to do and you don’t have any power over that. Thinking that if you forgive them, they will stop doing what they do, is an illusion which will cost you in the future and you will end up resenting them, and yourself – again – for it. Then, the act of forgiving them will get harder. And the next time, harder, and so on. It’s a vicious cycle from which you benefit for a second, in that brief time when you expect them to correct their behavior, until they do it again; and it benefits them, because they get to take you by surprise and steal that life energy to feed their inner wounds with.
Abusers and toxic people are wounded people. You can have compassion for them, you can try to show them the way, but you can never heal for them. As long as you act as a temporary holder of the wound, they will never heal.
Forgive yourself. Heal. Let others, including your abusers, do the same. You don’t own their journeys. But you can own yours.
We are focused points of energy. We can learn how to summon the type of energy we wish to let circulate through us.
The only reason we choose to let negative and destructive energy through our system is because we think it will shield us from harm.
It’s a belief based in fear.
But it will only make it worse. The negative spiral becomes stronger, unless we throw our anchor into the light and start climbing back up.
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I love myself for making it this far.
I love myself for being organized.
I love myself for being a woman.
I love myself for managing to do so well under these circumstances.
I love myself for taking care of my body and soul.
I love myself for staying in my truth.
I love myself for speaking my truth, no matter the situation.
I love myself for doing my best every day for as long as I can remember.
I love myself for going to bed early as often as possible and not skipping sleep anymore for the past 10 years.
I love myself for learning how to allow.
I love myself for being so dedicated to my passions.
I love myself for learning how to give love.
I love myself for deciding not to settle for less.
I love myself for creating all the art works and designs throughout my life, and making it a priority to follow my soul’s guidance, even when 95% of the people I’ve met thought I was crazy and that it’s a waste of time.
I love myself for saying no when I did.
I love myself for being committed to meditating every morning for life.
I love myself for having the patience to listen before judging.
I love myself for being such a good cook.
I love myself for making the effort of appreciating the good, even when the bad was right in my face.
I love myself for making a connection with God from within and doing my best at maintaining it.
I love myself for putting up mantras and affirmations and reminders on the walls of my home, so that I remember what matters most every day.
I love myself for being myself.
I love myself for getting up every time.
I love myself for dreaming so shard.
I love myself for the way I keep moving forward.
I love myself for all the wisdom I was and am gifted with.
I love myself for being a hypersensitive person, because otherwise I couldn’t see so deep into a situation.
I love myself for giving my all in my relationships.
I love myself for creating and upholding healthy boundaries.
I love myself for learning something about myself and the world every day.
I love myself for journaling since I was like 12.
I love myself for knowing when to turn back.
I love myself for my miraculous imagination that can carry me thousands of galaxies away if I want it to.
I love myself for doing this list today.
I hope this inspires you to make your own. ❤
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I was almost sorry for not being outside all day yesterday, because of the pure spectacle that had been unfolding continuously on the sky, as seen from my apartment. Finally, around 6:30 P.M., managed to get out of the house, and by divine grace got an Uber car with a sunroof, which was open during my ride to the place I was meeting a friend for dinner. I couldn’t wipe the smile off my face, while the clouds offered an even bigger show, reflecting the colors of a perfect, beautiful September sunset, in pink, blue and orange.
I found out the name of fountain in the center of the Plaza that the restaurant we were going to was near to, only hours before I left. It is amazing to me how synchronizations align in my experience to let me know I’m on the right path, all day, every day, more acutely as the years pass. I wrote about the September 23d’s powerful astrological alignment in the previous two posts. So naturally, I was finding myself in front of the Zodiac Fountain, sitting on a bench, right in front of me the sign of Aries, the first sign, peeking through the falling water. As I was focusing on the beauty of this day and setting, I got centered and simply felt at peace, as one who made peace with herself many years ago, and strives to maintain it since, should. The sky was moving, colors were changing, more beautiful, warm, glorious, every second, as the last rays were encompassing this part of the planet. The water was hypnotizing, it mirrored the color changes of the sky, the sound of the continuous flow was soothing, the temperature was that of a cooling fall day at sunset. There were a few people around, also enjoying the magic of the place, as the tall, heavy, metal street clock started singing to signal 7 o’clock sharp. As much as I tried focusing on all of these peaceful, positive aspects, couldn’t ignore the presence of a congress of crows gathered around the fountain as well. They were particularly large… also a crossbreed with a lighter color feather type of bird, maybe pigeon? They were flying in short bursts or just walking, and were pretty noisy… Noticed a headless bird cadaver on the sidewalk as I was going to sit down, and thought it was a dead crow. But as I sat on the bench, a few steps away, I saw a crow landing on it and starting to feed off of it. At first I was confused, thinking that crows shouldn’t eat crows, but soon realized it was a pigeon, not a crow. I tried to shift my focus off on other things, because the scene was raw and disturbing, and I was kind of tired from the week before, and I felt the need to not absorb anymore dense, heavy energies. Stayed for a few more minutes, until the sun was down completely and left for the restaurant.
This morning, while doing my morning ritual, that uneasy scene came back to me, like it was trying to tell me I should ponder on it one more time, because it has something to tell me. And I realized that the detail I found most disturbing was that the crow was feeding from the corpse while sitting on it, its claws firmly holding it… and I realized that crows only have their legs and beaks to eat with… so they’ve adapted their eating style to their own body shape… and remembered a few stances other fellow humans infringed pain and feed off of other human’s souls, in recent events, personal and around the world… It’s not because they deliberately choose to do it, but it’s because they perceive themselves as being forced by their own, again, perceived limitations, to do so. They don’t see any other way and they think their very survival depends on them being and behaving like that. It’s never a matter of real cruelty, it’s a matter of simply not knowing better and fear. It seemed symbolic to me how we as humanity still have a lot of shedding of dense and negative debris to do. Moments of integrating the shadow are not possible without understanding why, before panicking in front of what we perceive as unwanted. It’s all part of us, nothing is really separated, nothing will ever be really lost, it’s just a continuous expansion and evolution of the parameters of the outside traits of this reality, as we expand internally, realizing the extent of our own capacity to encompass all of it at once.
Maybe, releasing our attachment to unrealistic expectations from those who can’t see beyond their own shadow will also help prevent unnecessary conflicts.
An open mind and an open heart truly can do wonders. It’s up to each of us.
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Balance. That’s what it’s all about.